While quite rare, there are several examples of older women who are now daring to write about their life experiences as 2nd and 3rd wave feminists, and how they regret almost all of it because it gave them nothing more than making them miserable, lonely and resentful, and now they are now too old and lonely, the best of life having passed them.
Turns out that the "liberation of women" is not so "liberating" after all.
Pretty much all of them list the same key issues with 2nd-wave (and later) feminism and the so-called "liberation" of women.
One of the most fundamental key problems with the entire ideology is that it makes women think that men are competition. Men are "rivals", they are the "enemy", they are the people who compete against you and who are trying to oppress you, screw you over, take advantage of you, subjugate and suppress you, deny you opportunities and take them away from you.
Women raised in this kind of ideology and mentality always feel like they have to prove themselves worthy, like they are constantly competing against men eg. in the workplace and in society in general, and they feel like they are underdogs in an unfair competition, and thus they need to work extra hard to "win" this imaginary "competition" in order to gain the recognition and the social and career status that they deserve.
Needless to say, this mentality fosters and enhances personal insecurities and a sense of inferiority, as well as paranoia. Where most men, as well as the few women who haven't been brainwashed by the "women's liberation" 2nd-wave feminist ideology, will just take events, social interactions and words as they are, not attributing to them any more significance than they have, and rarely taking anything personally that wasn't intended as personal, most women who have been brainwashed by feminism and are in a constant state of "need-to-prove-myself" and paranoia will easily interpret every even slightly negative and upsetting interaction and event as a personal attack, and will at least suspect that they are being deliberately oppressed, dismissed, belittled, insulted or taken advantage of.
That kind of constant paranoia is not conducive to good mental health.
Feminist-indoctrinated women will often take this paranoia, sentiments of "need-to-prove-myself", and principles of "I'm not going to allow myself to be taken advantage of" even to their romantic relationships, and this is in fact one of the biggest regrets of the few feminists who are daring to write about their life experiences. The paranoia, the suspicion of "is he belittling me?", of "is he being prejudiced against me?", of "is he not taking me seriously and not giving me the respect that I deserve" inevitably seeps into the social relationships with a romantic partner, no matter how genuinely nice and gentlemanly the man is.
And it's precisely that constant paranoia, that constant feeling of "this is a competition", that eats at the psyche of the woman. It's toxic and corrosive, psychologically speaking. Sooner or later it just erodes the relationship and ruins it. Even if it starts really well, eventually that paranoia, that need to prove oneself, that feeling of inferiority, that feeling that she is in a "competition" with the man, that she will never allow the man to belittle her or take advantage of her in any way, will start eroding the relationship.
Add on top of that the fact that 2nd-wave (and later) feminism has inculcated into society, and particularly into these women, this insane notion that women absolutely must have a career, and that being a house mom is somehow "degrading" and "oppressive", and that women need to be "independent" and seek a career. Many such women have swallowed this idea so deeply that they outright abhor the idea of just being a regular traditional wife and allow the man to be the breadwinner of the house. That very idea is abhorrent and nauseating to them, and thus they avoid it like the plague, and they absolutely demand a romantic partner who accepts and advocates for the same thing.
But the problem is, this effectively means putting one's career ahead of one's romantic relationship. Career comes first, romantic relationship far second. These women will thus slave themselves in the ranks of some soulless corporation at the expense of spending quality time with their partners. And even that little quality time that they do spend will be marred by this unhealthy relationship that constantly struggles between career and romantic relations.
It turns out that the so-called "liberation of women" that 2nd-wave feminism offers is actually the "separation of women". It effectively wants to separate women from men, and consider the two groups competitors at best, outright enemies at worst. This is not liberation, it's separation. It's divisive, and it's toxic. And it seeps even into romantic relationships, ruining them.
Then thirty, forty, fifty years later, these women reminisce about their lives and life choices, and realize that they spent their entire lives focusing too much on their careers and "competing" against men, at the expense of their own happiness and mental well-being. They realize that they were duped into trying their entire lives to prove their worth against imaginary enemies, rather than living life at its fullest.
But the indoctrination of 2nd-wave feminism sits deep in the western culture. Try to even suggest that women would be happier as traditional housewives, and witness the outrage that you receive, the shocked and angry looks and responses, and the absolute refusal to even listen to your reasoning and arguments. What you have just said is outrageous, sacrilegious, and absolutely taboo. (And this completely regardless of whether you are a man or a woman saying it.)
The sad thing is that millions and millions of women have suffered the consequences of this and become miserable, and millions and millions of more women will be facing the same fate for the foreseeable future. This will not stop any time soon.
Note how I use the word "people" in the title of this blog post, rather than "women". That's intentional, and it's because this also makes many men miserable indirectly. Women are not the only ones who suffer from toxic relationships that have been ruined by 2nd-wave feminism: The men suffer from it too, obviously. Just like women, men are also denied healthy fulfilling relationships. Not all men, of course, but a lot of them, because feminism is so utterly common in our society.
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