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Why men are avoiding women at the workplace after #MeToo

Time and again real-life examples have shown that when women are given special status and special exemptions before the law, where a woman's word is taken more seriously than a man's, where the mere accusation of abuse is taken as proof and normal judicial procedures to corroborate these claims are skipped, this causes an explosion in false accusations.

This has happened in Spain, where new totalitarian gender discrimination laws were enacted in 2004 which effectively made the mere accusation of a woman against a man to be enough proof for a conviction (to such extent that men and their lawyers are even literally stopped by judges from speaking or presenting any evidence of their innocence; not even making that up). The amount of false accusations exploded, and there has been an ever-increasing counter-campaign against this ever since.

This has happened in Israel, in an eerily similar manner. Women routinely abuse their power to abuse men and, for example, get free taxi rides by threatening the driver with sexual assault accusations (the linked documentary shows an example of a taxi driver having installed a camera inside the taxi precisely to protect himself from this, and showing an example of such a case.)

This has happened in India. The stories are eerily similar.

Time and again real-life examples have shown that when standards of evidence for sexual assault accusations are lowered, many women will start taking advantage of it, for revenge, pettiness, personal advantage, or just because they feel like it. (As in the case of Israel, some women stoop so low as to just get free taxi rides by threatening the driver...)

The recent so-called "me too" movement isn't exactly the same thing as those examples above because it didn't happen at the governmental and judicial level. However, it did happen in the United States at the social level. Women were encouraged to come out and report any harassment they have experienced at the workplace from bosses, managers or coworkers.

Some serial harassers were genuinely exposed in this manner. But the problem is, since this "me too" movement was tightly tied with modern feminist rhetoric, the threshold of considering something "sexual harassment" is extraordinarily low. It's merely enough for a women to feel or perceive something to be "harassment", no matter how minor of a thing it might be, and that's enough. She's encouraged to report it. Did somebody look at her in the "wrong" manner? Did somebody use the wrong tone of voice? Did somebody disagree with her on something? Did she merely feel slightly uncomfortable while being in a room with a man (even though she can't point out anything concrete the man did that was wrong)? Anything and everything goes. If she feels that she was harassed, then she was, period.

And, as stated, when people are given this kind of power, many of them will take advantage of it.

For years now the "me too" movement has backfired spectacularly.


"According to LeanIn.Org, 60 percent of male managers say they're uncomfortable participating in common workplace activities with a woman, putting promotions at stake."

Why is this? Is it because men are misogynists, and they hate women so much that they are taking revenge on this?

No. It's survival.

A man may have built and worked for, and advanced in his career for decades, climbing up the ranks, getting promotions and salary raises, formed a family with a decent home and a good income. His life pretty much depends on that job.

It would take the word of a single woman to destroy everything. To ruin his career and his life. It doesn't matter how innocent he is, how innocuous the comment or action. If a female employee accuses him of sexual harassment, his life will pretty much be over. It's an accusation that will persist, and he will probably never work again, even though he may be completely innocent of any wrongdoing.

It's no wonder that these men are not willing to take the risk. Avoiding and ignoring female employees is a very small price to pay to avoid that unnecessary risk. When women are given this much power to destroy a man's life, the best defense against it is to simply avoid the women with this power. It's the only defense against it. There's nothing else that these men can do.

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