One of the, perhaps in some ways, least "non-disagreeable" parts of the modern feminist social justice far-leftist "woke" western culture has been the emphasis on "consent". Which, of course, in the far-leftist world view means that women have all the power and men must be subservient slaves to whatever women say, quite particularly when she says "no".
I think that this is once again a (perhaps slightly more minor) example of "the road to hell is paved with good intentions". Yes, it's a good thing for a gentleman to respect women and not force them to do anything they don't want to do, nor be pushy. A gentleman is polite, friendly, shows good manners, and respects women. A true gentleman is someone that people (not just women, but people in general) find nice and a good person to hang around with, and that involves a lot of respect and taking into account other people's feelings and boundaries.
However, like with so many things, also here it seems to be that this whole concept of "consent" has been once again taken to its absolute extreme, to completely ridiculous extents. It's repeated and emphasized over and over, when it comes to dating and relationship advice, by pretty much all of society. "Consent" this, "consent" that, like it's by far the absolute number 1 most important part of human interaction, far far above everything else.
If she says "no", no matter what the situation, then that's it. You have to back off, immediately. Not just if you are trying to have sex with her, but in every possible situation. Even if you just wanted to casually talk about the weather, if she gives even a slight "no", then you have to immediately back off and leave her alone.
You can see this kind of thing sometimes for example when some kind of "dating advice guru" says something absolutely preposterous like "you don't have to accept her rejection", most people immediately gasp in disbelief and outrage, and the guy is called an absolute loser misogynist woman-hater, who would likely rape women if he didn't end up in jail for that.
So yes, even if you would just want to chat with a woman at a bar, maybe buy her a drink, if she indicates in any way, shape or form that she isn't interested, you absolutely must back off immediately, else you are no better than a literal rapist.
I think this has created, and in increasing ways is creating, a culture that's killing romanticism and romantic relationships, especially in the west.
No matter how much people deny it, no matter how much many women deny it, most women like and are attracted to confident men. A man who exudes confidence and courage is much more appealing and attractive than a meek cowardly pushover who gives up and backs off at the first sign of trouble. This shouldn't be a controversial fact of reality (even though some people are trying really hard to make it one.)
What this exaggerated emphasis on "consent" and "immediately back off if she rejects you" is doing is that it's teaching men to look meek, submissive and cowardly pushovers who have no confidence and immediately give up at the first sign of trouble, no matter how minor.
Even men who are actually confident, social, fun to hang around with, amicable, gentlemanly and respectful to women (and all people in general), but who will stand up to bullies and injustice when they have to, will end up looking like cowardly meek pushovers when they immediately back off at the first sign of "rejection", no matter how minor. An encounter that could have possibly ended up in a life-long strong loving and passionate relationship was cut before it even had any chance of starting.
You don't win a woman's heart by immediately giving up and going away at the first sign of minor complications. You win a woman's heart by being confident, respectful and likeable. And yes, that means that even if a woman might in some way reject a man's company at first, that doesn't mean he absolutely must immediately go away and never see her again. Pretty much no woman in the history of humanity has in this kind of situation then went to the guy and said to him "wait, I actually didn't mean that, please come back." That's just not how it works.
Many "dating advice gurus" are indeed jackasses and dumbasses. However, I believe that at least some of them have this very idea in their mind when they say that "you don't have to accept her rejection". They are just expressing themselves very poorly, in a manner that will immediately shut off any further conversation, and will drive off the vast majority of listeners.
I am quite sure that this overt emphasis on "consent" and blindly obeying even the slightest hints of a "no" is literally killing millions of potential fulfilling successful relationships before they could even start.
Ironically, it may even be that this is increasing the number of unsuccessful relationships where the guy actually does end up mistreating and abusing the woman. That's because only the abusive jackasses end up being the ones who don't care about the "consent culture" and, at first, end up giving an impression of confidence and bravery (only to later reveal their true nature as abusive and aggressive.)
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