I think that this article at xojane.com really demonstrates the problem with modern feminism: "35 Practical Steps Men Can Take To Support Feminism". I'm going to briefly comment on these "steps". (I'm not going to fully quote the text, to keep this shorter, and to avoid copyright issues. You can read the full text from that link.)
1. Do 50% (or more) of housework.
WTF do you mean "or more"? Really? I thought feminism is about equality.
Besides, the amount of housework done by people is none of your business. It's their business. Spouses can agree on the amount of housework done by each, which may depend on things like how much other work each has to do. They can also agree on who wants to do what. (For example, if one spouse would want more housework to be done than the other, they ought to reach a compromise. If there's something that eg. the woman would want to be done and the man doesn't, then perhaps the woman should do what she wants.)
2. Do 50% (or more) of emotional support work in your intimate relationships and friendships.
This "emotional labor" is one of these modern academic feminist bullshit things. There is no such a thing as "emotional labor". That's a completely made-up concept.
Like it or not, men and women are, on average, different. Their brains are wired differently. You might try to deny it, but that doesn't change reality. Most men just aren't as emotional as most women. Live with it. (Also, no matter how much you don't like the idea, there are women who prefer strong stoic men over weak emotional ones.)
3. Consume cultural products produced by women.
Why? I appreciate people by their merits, not by their gender. I do not engage in preferential treatment based on gender. Feminists do, I don't. If a woman creates a work of art that I appreciate, then great. However, I appreciate it because of its merits, not because it was made by a woman. Stop being so sexist.
4. Give women space.
This is one of the most obnoxious ones. Just read it:
If you don't, then just replace "man" with "white person" and "woman" with "black person". Do you have any idea how sexist this is?
If a woman is prejudiced against me solely because I'm a man, that's her problem, not mine. She is the prejudiced one, not me. I don't have the slightest obligation to submit to other people's prejudices.
5. … but insert yourself into spaces where you can use your maleness to interrupt sexism.
Pamela, Pamela, Pamela... you don't even know what you are doing here. You are perpetuating the notion of women as weak, as damsels in distress, and in need for protection from men, their knights in shining armor.
Oh, what's that? Feminist rhetoric doesn't work when it's aimed at a feminist? Right. Double standards for the win.
6. When a woman tells you something is sexist, believe her.
No, because I'm not a sexist. I evaluate claims on their own right, based on merit, not based on who makes those claims. My acceptance of your claims is completely independent on what gender you might be, I'm sorry.
7. Educate yourself about sexual consent and make sure there is clear, unambiguous communication of consent in all your sexual relationships.
In other words, educate yourself about what feminists consider "rape" this week.
Of course this is a completely futile endeavor. No matter how much and how clearly she gave consent, if she accuses you of rape, you are fucked. Even if the police investigation clears you of all charges, you are still fucked. Because feminism.
8. Be responsible for contraception.
This is a complex issue, but this part is just obnoxious: "Assume financial responsibility for any costs related to contraception." What the fuck?
9. Get the HPV vaccine.
10. Have progressive name politics.
You know what? This list is so incredibly stupid, that I am going to stop here, or else this will be just repeating the same thing over and over.
1. Do 50% (or more) of housework.
WTF do you mean "or more"? Really? I thought feminism is about equality.
Besides, the amount of housework done by people is none of your business. It's their business. Spouses can agree on the amount of housework done by each, which may depend on things like how much other work each has to do. They can also agree on who wants to do what. (For example, if one spouse would want more housework to be done than the other, they ought to reach a compromise. If there's something that eg. the woman would want to be done and the man doesn't, then perhaps the woman should do what she wants.)
2. Do 50% (or more) of emotional support work in your intimate relationships and friendships.
This "emotional labor" is one of these modern academic feminist bullshit things. There is no such a thing as "emotional labor". That's a completely made-up concept.
Like it or not, men and women are, on average, different. Their brains are wired differently. You might try to deny it, but that doesn't change reality. Most men just aren't as emotional as most women. Live with it. (Also, no matter how much you don't like the idea, there are women who prefer strong stoic men over weak emotional ones.)
3. Consume cultural products produced by women.
Why? I appreciate people by their merits, not by their gender. I do not engage in preferential treatment based on gender. Feminists do, I don't. If a woman creates a work of art that I appreciate, then great. However, I appreciate it because of its merits, not because it was made by a woman. Stop being so sexist.
4. Give women space.
This is one of the most obnoxious ones. Just read it:
"If a seat is available on public transit next to a man, take that seat rather than one next to a woman. If you are walking outside in the dark close to a woman walking alone, cross the street so that she doesn’t have to worry someone is following her. If a woman is standing alone on a subway platform, stand some distance away from her."What the fuck are you talking about? Cross the street if a woman is walking alone? Do you even understand how amazingly obnoxious that sounds?
If you don't, then just replace "man" with "white person" and "woman" with "black person". Do you have any idea how sexist this is?
If a woman is prejudiced against me solely because I'm a man, that's her problem, not mine. She is the prejudiced one, not me. I don't have the slightest obligation to submit to other people's prejudices.
5. … but insert yourself into spaces where you can use your maleness to interrupt sexism.
Pamela, Pamela, Pamela... you don't even know what you are doing here. You are perpetuating the notion of women as weak, as damsels in distress, and in need for protection from men, their knights in shining armor.
Oh, what's that? Feminist rhetoric doesn't work when it's aimed at a feminist? Right. Double standards for the win.
6. When a woman tells you something is sexist, believe her.
No, because I'm not a sexist. I evaluate claims on their own right, based on merit, not based on who makes those claims. My acceptance of your claims is completely independent on what gender you might be, I'm sorry.
7. Educate yourself about sexual consent and make sure there is clear, unambiguous communication of consent in all your sexual relationships.
In other words, educate yourself about what feminists consider "rape" this week.
Of course this is a completely futile endeavor. No matter how much and how clearly she gave consent, if she accuses you of rape, you are fucked. Even if the police investigation clears you of all charges, you are still fucked. Because feminism.
8. Be responsible for contraception.
This is a complex issue, but this part is just obnoxious: "Assume financial responsibility for any costs related to contraception." What the fuck?
9. Get the HPV vaccine.
"as a matter of fairness men should be the ones who at least assume the potential risks of getting vaccinated."WTF? Do I even need to comment how twisted this whole paragraph is?
10. Have progressive name politics.
"If having a common surname with your spouse is important to you, be willing to change your surname and treat this as a preferable option to your spouse changing hers."And then they claim that feminism is about equality. I think we are seeing a pattern in this article.
You know what? This list is so incredibly stupid, that I am going to stop here, or else this will be just repeating the same thing over and over.
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